A good example would be my 2 daughter's, the oldest always blended in, made friends with everyone she met but was not the life of the party. She is very social but in a demur way. Now my younger daughter is always noticed and not the life of a party but is very active and vocal. You will know she's there, thus drawing more attention especially the haters, she just seems too happy to be left alone. Plus if she don't like you she can drop you dead with just a look, you know she dislikes you just from the look in her eyes. If you are a stand out person you'll be noticed by all including those that would like to cause trouble and be noticed. Now if I were a trouble maker that wanted to be noticed by everyone who do you think I'd go after? The one everyone else has noticed.
My 12 yr. old is the life of anything he does but he has this way about him, he is very confident and has a style that you just can't resist. A very likable and easy to get along with person, I've never known anyone that didn't like him, including those trouble makers. Very even tempered so you'd have to push real hard to get him to fight, but you would not like the results since he can split inch 1/2 pieces of wood. I imagine it is the way he carries himself that tells others he's not one to be messed with.
