really not an option to lower the drain..... i would need to cut the wall, and then try and deal with soldering copper pipe..... not something i really want to deal with, nor do i have a torch anymore
I've been mulling this all morning..... It sounds like you prefer that deep sink (they really are much nicer IMO) and you're going to have a disposal. It also sounds like the wall drain pipe needs to be lower. Would you re-consider that option? You might be glad later on if you did it now, instead if wishing that you had.
Cutting the wall isn't a big deal, especially if the area is hidden by cabinetry (any imperfections won't be seen). Save the piece you remove so it can be re-used (it's a guaranteed perfect fit). I find patching plaster works better than spackling compound to blend things back together again.
You might be able to beg, borrow, or worst case -- buy -- a torch. If that's not feasible, hire a plumber. It's a small quick job and shouldn't cost much. You'll end up with what you really want, and in the long run you'll forget about the extra trouble it was.