Yes the spacer kits do suck. I took my spacer lift off after a week(rode like crap) and got these adjustable Bilstiens for the front. http://www.wheelersoffroad.com/9504tacoadjbils.htm
They are cheap and the ride is top notch. Night and day difference over stock.
Oh no way, for $175 plus shipping i'm gonna get those as soon as I can before the spacer lift destroys my shock towers. What are you running for a rear lift?