The stud down is a small torque requirement.  23# IIRC (If I Remember correctly).  Forearm tight should be fine with the Loctite, but we all got different strength forearms I guess.  (Forearm tight meaning as tight as you can get just before you feel like throwing your shoulder into it.)

The nut on is 110# (per FROR).

You don't need an allen, torx, star or any other type of 'fancy' head on the stud. 

If you don't wanna wing it with 'forearm tight', you can double nut the stud and still torque it so spec. Or buy the 'fancy' style.  Pretty sure TG sells them.

I double nut the ones I got from FROR (knuckle studs) and torqued them down with loctite.  Probably unnecessary, but it creates piece of mind for me so...........FTW!!

(And no the kit does not come with the cone washers.  That's a different kit.  But $2.50-3.00 sounds about right for new ones.)